Addicted and disrespectful
The abuse of freedom pushed Jack to drinking alcohol, smoking dagga and going to nightclubs from the age of 15. He stayed with his uncle and grandmother while his mother worked and lived in another province.
"My mother visited me once in a while and did not have a relationship with my father. That made me feel I had the freedom to do everything I wanted because my parents were far away. I became involved in the bad company of friends, smoked, drank alcohol and went to nightclubs," said Jack.
To feed his addiction, Jack stole money from his uncle and grandmother.
"I smoked every day after school and my grandmother complained because I came home smelling of cigarettes and dagga. They questioned me about their lost monies, but I never admitted it. I spent my weekends away with friends and only came back home on Sunday afternoon. I refused to be corrected by my grandmother and my uncle," he said.
Tired of his bad behaviour, his grandmother chased Jack out of the house after he had an argument with his uncle.
"I was doing my matric then. My uncle rebuked me for coming home drunk late at night and I back chatted him. I then told him I was not going to listen to his correction because he was not my father. He became so angry and my grandmother decided to chase me out of the house because I was the one causing strife in the family. I lived alone in my mother's house, drank alcohol and smoked dagga freely. My mother sent me money every month, but I spent it on alcohol," said Jack.
After he completed his matric, he moved to Johannesburg to stay with his mother.
"I continued smoking and drinking, but I made sure I did not get drunk because my mother was strict," he said.
In 2016 he was invited to the Universal Church. He accepted the invitation because he realised that his addiction affected his relationship with his uncle and grandmother and he did not get into trouble with his mother.
"A pastor advised me to attend Addiction Cleansing Therapy for my deliverance from alcohol, dagga and cigarettes. I understood that my body was the temple of the Holy Spirit and I needed to take care of it. After four months in the church I was able to stop smoking, drinking and stealing. I committed my life to God and developed my spiritual life. I understood that I did wrong for disrespecting my uncle and grandmother and I asked for forgiveness. I am currently doing my diploma in management services. I have a good relationship with my uncle and my grandmother. I live my life to please God," said Jack.